It seems appropriate to quote Nancy Reagan now. She is credited with observing that women were like tea bags, you could never tell how strong one was until she got into hot water. Some women are so strong, or at any rate their personalities are so strong, that you don’t need the hot water at all and can sun brew them.
Such was the case with my own mother whose personality was of the expansive sort, and I’ve known plenty of women since who were larger than life. I’m speaking of the personality here mind you, not the character. Character is different. Largely self constructed a structure that goes up with labor over decades and has little to do with personality. Put it this way, personality you are born with, character you make yourself, it’s akin to the difference between beauty and style. Continue reading